Is "Good Enough" limiting your true potential in life?
In an emotional conversation with my best friend, you know the one where there are just a lotta tears, infinite more questions than answers and mostly rambling in a nonsensical language only that friend would be able to decode, a seed was planted into my brain regarding my endless seeking nature. She suggested that my seeking, the seeking that was making me uneasy in the moment, had always been part of my nature. At first I thought to myself, well of course, doesn’t everyone seek? Isn’t it everyone’s nature?
To seek: desire to obtain or achieve something
Doesn’t everyone do this?
In sessions with clients, I often offer my perspective to clients about seeking, about the endless desire to do something different, to set goals, to become the fullest expression of oneself. Many ok most have probably heard me say something like “we continue to grow and change and evolve until our very last breath on earth” and encourage them to lean into rather than avoiding growth and change and evolution. Until my friend and I had this conversation, it hadn’t even occurred to me that some people do not seek.
On the surface, I present as calm and quiet. While I work really hard at this exterior presentation (with yoga, meditation, breath work, walking/running and prayer) my higher self or full expression of self knows it is not my entire story. No one wants a psychotherapist who is overly emotive in sessions, as it is literally my job to hold space and help to center or calm clients, not always but in part. However the truth is I know what it feels like to be unsettled, to be racing underneath the surface, to be seeking more in life. To be searching…. not always understanding in the moment what I am even searching to find, and may be it isn’t something that can be quantified.
What if we all settled for good enough?
What if women settled for not being able to vote because it was “good enough that someone in the household was able to vote?”
What former slaves or descendants of slaves settled with just being “free” from slavery, and didn’t seek equality? (why on earth they had to “seek” this is topic for another blog, but is beyond shameful for all of us as a human race.)
What if people who identify in the lgbt-q community settled for not having people outwardly discriminate against them, not seeking having full marriage equality and the freedom to marry, openly whomever they wished to marry?
Sometimes good enough isn’t ENOUGH.
We need seekers. We need courageous, outspoken, fearless leaders in our world who aren’t afraid of shaking things up! We need critical thinkers, philosophers, spiritual leaders to move us further in our collective quest to not settle for just good enough as a nation and a world….reminding us individually to think BIG, dream BIGGER, and never just settle for the status quo because it is….good enough.
Hoping you all feel BRAVE enough to continue to seek- and follow whatever your dreams are truly inside of you.
